Monday, February 11, 2019

It's just a big bowl!



My grown kids are always asking me.."remember when..." I don't remember. What I do remember are the little things. This bowl. This metal bowl. This bowl has made countless batches of Texas Trash (Chex Mix), at Christmas for our growing family. This bowl has made triple batches of cookies for friends and family. Coleslaw, a family fav, has been made in this bowl and then divided into smaller containers. Same for potato salad. Many a time my husband Bo has said, "your bowl is not big enough", and he is right, so I have to transfer ingredients to this bowl.
Now that we are retired, I am enjoying finding new recipes in which this bowl is needed. Today I mixed up green and purple cabbage, one red bell pepper and six carrots. Added  three tablespoons of salt. All in this bowl. Then 'massaged' it, transferred to my new crock (in the background) to make sauerkraut. Fingers crossed on the result! This bowl was the only one big enough. 
Every single time I get this bowl out of the pantry, every time...I remember 38 years ago. This bowl was my first born, Michael Aaron Scalise's favorite toy in the kitchen. We had a tiny two bedroom house, an uneven linoleum kitchen floor. This bowl was on a bottom shelf in a cabinet that toddler Aaron could open. He would pull out this bowl, get in this bowl and make it teeter and totter and spin! That simple squeal and laughter from my now 6'4" son with his own family, that is one forever memory.  And those batches of cookies, coleslaw, potato salad, etc. What is your best simple memory?

Thursday, March 3, 2011

Ask not what your COMMUNITY can do for you...

What would happen if the U.S., Texas and our cities went broke? How did the United State of America survive the Great Depression? Have we become too dependent on government? What happened to serving mankind, and I don't mean by the government giving them a handout?

Let me know if you think I'm a cynic. I've been in the Chamber of Commerce biz for 30 years! I've been honored to know some wonderful Godly giving people, who care about their community and are selfless givers. I think those folks are now few and far between, they are aging and dying. They learned about building community from their parents. They knew what it was like to scrimp and save. They understand taking care of their fellow man out of THEIR OWN pocket. They built our communities. Bankers, businessmen and the like pooled resources subdivided plots of land, named towns, recruited business and industry, built hospitals, hotels and churches. They did what was best for the good of their community, not to achieve personal gain. Hummmm...doesn't the Bible tell us to love one another, give to our church, take care of widows and orphans, etc. How quickly we forget that we are promised gain if we do what is right.

I'm also a Rotarian, an amazing organization. Service Above Self is our motto. We also are supposed to live by the 4-Way Test: Of the things you think see and do, first...is it the Truth, second...is it Fair to all concerned, third...is it Beneficial to all concerned, and forth....will it build Good Will and Better Friendship? That's a tough test, but a wonderful goal. Rotary puts politics aside worldwide and cares for humanity. Bill Gates is a Rotarian. He has pledged $355 million if Rotary can match $200 million to eradicate polio. Bill & Melinda Gates are examples of Service Above Self. Their giving has helped throughout the U.S. They have even provided education challenge grants in the Rio Grande Valley. Rotarians...we are getting old! Are we training and raising a new generation of selfless Rotarians? My dad was in the Lions Club, another amazing service organization, are they growing and nurturing new Lions?

Chambers of Commerce have been around for centuries. They were established as trade organizations that allowed businesses to network, communicate and build their businesses and community. Today things are changing. Technology is a wonderful thing....but....

We, Chambers, created mechanisms such as economic development taxes that allowed our communities to compete and bring new jobs to the community. A great idea!

We have a hotel occupancy tax that comes back to our communities. It's mandated intent is to be a self generating tax, spend it on promotion, rent more hotel rooms.

These are the taxes I am most familiar with, there are many more. But, these are local options. Our citizens agreed to assess the taxes for the betterment of our communities.

Okay...here the comes the cynic. Taxes make us lazy. Why should we serve our community if we can throw money at someone to sway their decision? We no longer have business teams that meet with potential new business. Now we have businesses research our communities online and know more about us than many of us know about ourselves. Then they decide if they are interested in asking for assistance to locate in our community. This is not a bad thing, but it changes the spirit of our community, the basic foundation of the way we 'have always done it'.

Many of the large industries and especially the 'big box' stores have corporate policies that don't encourage involvement in the local chamber of commerce. Yes, they probably have a foundation that gives money nationwide to worthwhile projects and IF you have a 501 (c3) Foundation, you can tap in to their money. They don't encourage their management and employees to get involved in the community. This is a basic foundation of a chamber of commerce, volunteers....good corporate citizens.

We now have a generation of young businesses and business owners and executives that have not been trained in service above self. It is almost another form of welfare! We have several generations of impoverished Americans who depend on welfare, it is a lifestyle they have been taught because we elect individuals whe perpetuate a broken system. We have lost the will to work, to thrive, to help each other individually. We have lost that will as individuals and as businesses. Someone will always pay for what we need or want. We no longer work for it. It is always someone else's responsibility.

My father was a mechanic, my mother a secretary, both with high school educations. Daddy learned his trade in the Army Air Corp in WWII. My grandparents were farmers. We had no money, but we were rich. Sometime Daddy got a steak, we had hamburger or venison. Oh, and we were not allowed to talk at the table! We played outside, me with my Barbie, Ken and Midge in mud houses I built; my brothers and their neighborhood gang tormenting us little girls with slingshots and Chinaberries! Cell phones? We had cans and string, worked pretty darn good! Santa came every year, he left us each one gift each under the tree. We were ushered to a back room Christmas Eve, while my dad threw rocks on the roof...reindeer hooves! I started sewing as a pre-teen, made my own clothes. I didn't know what designer jeans were until I got married. My father took us hunting, he raised and raced homing pidgeons and we took care of them. We always had some project in the garage that we all were allowed to work on. My brothers built a boat, learned how to work on cars, took pictures, developed and printed their pictures in our darkroom, or talked to the world on their ham radio, all in our magical garage. The garage that Daddy built. My siblings and I are educated, we paid our way through college and my brother joined the military to achieve his dream of medical school and being a heart surgeon. When I was in college, my roomate and I discussed food stamps, we qualified. We couldn't do it. We worked multiple jobs and went to school. It was one of the best times of my life! Now we have been blessed and have paid for our children's college education, their rent, their gas, their medical.....we want the best for our kids. Just what are we teaching?

It seems I'm rambling, but I have a point or two! We need to get off our lazy butts and start serving our communities. If you don't like what is happening run for a political office. We need to stop giving our kids everything their little hearts desire. Chambers of commerce, service clubs...we better re-invent ourselves FAST! We will be history if we don't. We need to quit depending on handouts in whatever form they come. We need to inspire and grow new young selfless leaders that want to improve their community. These leaders may have to take some hard stands, make statements, demand changes, get involved in government. Technology, social networks are great, use them, communicate! But don't forget the handshake, it happens in person.

I'm as guilty as the next person. Do you think we can change? Who wants that challenge?

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

Are you part of the problem?

A friend sent me an e-mail yesterday with some of the most graphic photos I have every seen. It was a series of precisely mutilated bodies of men in Mexico. Men who were vicitims of the drug cartel violence. Arms, legs, hands, torsos, heads tossed about like in a horror movie. But this wasn't a movie.

Do you smoke pot, occasionally have a bit of cocaine....just casually, or habitually. Maybe just when you are partying with friends, just a social thing. Maybe you have been doing this for years, but it hasn't affected your life negatively. You still work, raise your kids, go to church, get involved in community organizations. You are a proud American citizen, not hurting anyone.

B.S.!!! You are part of the problem! Yesterday two Americans that work in Cd. Juarez in the American consulate office, were gunned down with their baby in the back seat. The mom was 4 months pregnant. Yesterday, two Americans were shot at Wal Mart in McAllen. Suspected drug related. What if one of us had been shopping there? My husband's job takes him to Reynosa, Mexico regularly. I pray hard for his safety. My youngest daughter is getting ready to participate in a class trip to Mexico, again pray, pray, pray. I can see the border from my front door. There are nights we have gone to bed with a loaded shotgun at our bedside.

I see the devastation to the businesses in our little tourist town of Nuevo Progreso, Mexico. Families that have grown up on both sides of the border, now paying 'protection' to criminals to keep them 'safe'.

You can sit there in your cozy little home and think, 'this doesn't affect me'. Again, B.S. if you use any illegal drugs. You can hate me, cuss me, de-friend me on FaceBook, I don't care. If you are my acquaintance, a family member, or a dear friend...think about those that we love and how we are touched, threatened or in danger because of drug violence. PLEASE don't be part of the problem, if you are quit, or go smoke a joint and don't think about it! One of these days this will touch you too.

Friday, March 5, 2010

Beauty is only skin deep, Ugly goes all the way to the bone!

Do you remember being a teenage? Especially if you are a girl! Do you remember seeing every little flaw and thinking you were disgusting? How many teenage girls have the confidence to see their beauty and value?

If you know me, you know I have BEAUTIFUL daughters. They were never interested in being in a pageant. If you know me, you know how I feel about beauty pageants! I think everyone that God puts on Earth has a special place, a special purpose and a special beauty.

Once again, my job has forced me to see the UGLY reality of beauty pageants....and it hasn't even happened yet!

The girls are sweet, beautiful and seeking approval. Some PARENTS (some, not all for sure) are UGLY. Our pageant facilitators for the Miss Onion Fest and Miss Weslaco pageants have done an outstanding job. They care about the community, they care about the girls. They want to promote the pageant and show off our precious young ladies.

SO IN COME THE UGLY ADULTS! I have never seen such malice, insults and THREATS as those that have appeared on the Pageant coordinators FaceBook Page. In my 'official capacity', I asked that all comments be suspended.

Who do you think you are hurting?
What kind of example are you setting for your daughters, and other young girls?
Are your threats and innuendos going to 'sway' the judges or hurt those that you think you are helping?
Are you building character for our young adults?
Are you teaching our young ladies about life?

Face it, in a contest, sports game, pageant, and in life....there are winners and there are losers. When we lose or fail at a task that is a challenge to do something different, to learn from our experience, to move forward. When you are 12 - 17 years old, this is difficult. Competition should build character.

Parents should support, and let children make mistakes, fail, and teach them that it is a life lesson and teach them how to move on.

I have a real hard time seeing how subjecting these young ladies to a BEAUTY pageant is a life lesson. Especially when adults behave the way they do.

I guess in the Rio Grande Valley, folks feel they/their kids DESERVE reward, no matter what...or...they can intimidate those in charge to get what they think they are OWED.

Disgusting!

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

We must never forget our freedom

















My little sister just visited Hawaii. She's doing an amazing job of bringing family history to life. She posed for a picture aboard the USS Missouri in the exact same spot our Uncle Lee stood as he observed the Japanese surrender. Uncle Lee served our country with pride, even as he endured two years as a Japanese prisoner of war.

It's so easy to go about our daily lives, watch our silly television shows, drive our fancy cars, and enjoy all the blessings we assume we deserve. Thank you to all those that have allowed us to remain in a blissful fog of indifference and ignorance. May God forgive us and protect our American freedoms we so take for granted.